The Best “Father’s Day” Sermon I’ve Ever Heard

Notes diligently taken from Brother Jim Dearman’s

“Family Matters 2008” Retreat  2/16/2008

Balancing All of My Roles in the Home

Question: “What is your role in the home?” – Better asked:

                “What are you roles in the home?”

* The “roles” you have are not as a character in a play, but, are serious

     eternal matters.

·        These responsibilities – duties and obligations – are grave and serious   

      matters.

The Three Roles a man has in the Christian home are that of:

          Husband: To a Christian Wife.

          Father: To Christian Children

          Brother: To a Christian Family (applies to relationship to, a Sister in

                        Christ – our Wife, and to Brothers/Sisters in Christ – our

                        Children.

Realizing the Roles – making them a continuing reality

-         Consistency in our dealing with our family

-         Sub-roles: there are responsibilities within our roles

Our Roles:

1. The Husband  -  Ephesians 5:22-33

          “The Head of the Wife”

          Qualifications – Not Dictatorial, no Tyrannical rule

                   As also Christ is the head of the Church, and Savior of the

                    Body ( 1 head over the body)

          How does the Husband head the Wife?

                   With:

·        Love

·        Compassion

·        Mercy

·        Consideration

·        Sacrifice

“Husbands love your Wife – as Christ so loved the Church” – Exercise your headship as to give your life in sacrifice if need be

I Corinthians 11:1-3 – This is the structure of the headship. LOVINGLY

* Never fulfill your role in the home by relinquishing your role as head

As the Husband, always be the leader:

·        In the Home – Be responsible for Direction

·        In the Church – Be responsible for Salvation

·        In the School – Br responsible for Education

You Cannot Redefine the Roles.            You must Realize the Roles.

You must Avoid “abusing the relationship” – You Cannot Restrict and Regulate them by the Word of God.

To Love ourselves is to respect ourselves this will carry over to the Wife.

2. The Father       Ephesians6:4

Consider your primary responsibilities – BE AT HOME!!!

John 14:6-9     -     “Fathers, SHOW US the FATHER (God)”

Show Us the Father by:

          A. Feeding your family  -  I Timothy 5:8   -   denied the faith

               / responsibility to feed the family     Matthew 6:24 – God feeds us

               Remember to keep it in perspective – Feed their needs, not wants.

          B. Faithfulness to you children   -   Hebrews 10:23   -   Be Consistent

          C. Fear (Reverence/Respect) – We command it in our children

               Rule (Lording) – “Anti-Biblical  Not provoking to wrath by

               “intimidation/dictatorship”.

          D. Favor you distribute equally to your children.

               - individual by individual personality – Keep the same Standard!

          E. Firmness of your discipline – NOT ABUSIVE

             Proverbs 29:15 – “The child left to himself brings shame to his

                                           mother.”

          F. The Fruit of the Spirit – Galatians 5:22,23

              “But the Fruit of the Spirit is:

                   * Love

                   * Joy

                   * Peace

                   * Longsuffering

                   * Kindness

                   * Goodness

                   * Faithfulness

                   * Gentleness

                   * Self-Control

                   Against such there is no Law.”

3. The Brother   -   Attitude and Action in our lives toward our

                                wives/children/congregation because they

                                ARE A CHRISTIAN

John 3:14-16   -   Love the brethren – he who does not love his brother

                             ABIDES IN DEATH!  ( John 3:18 )

Show a Benevolent Spirit – “Sharing the Workload”

I John 3:18 – Love in Deed and in Truth

Love Others as Christ Loved Us   -   John 13:34

Galatians 6:1-5   -   Bear one another’s burdens 1^st – Compassion

                              Bear your own burdens 2^nd – Responsibility

If you have a brother or sister, how is your relationship with them?

Be the Brother you would want them to be to you!

* Invitation *

So how do you measure up Men? Are you the best Husband you can be? Father? Brother? Are you a Christian Husband/Father/Brother?

Wives and Children, are you letting them lead as they were Godly commanded to do so?

Are you letting them lead a Christian?

Have you Heard? Do you Believe? Will you Repent of your sins? Will you Confess Jesus as the Christ, the Son of the Living God? Will you be Baptized (immersed) in the name of the Father, Son, Holy Spirit washing away your sins by faithful obedience? Will you live faithful until death?

Christians are you?

If not, why not? The invitation is yours!